Please provide advice, please pease please:
Whilst I was still in a relationship and working in my previous job, there was, I admit some flirting with a guy at work.I was immensely flattered that he would even glance in my direction. He is very handsome.
It started with me just thinking he was eye candy and staring at him out of the window from my desk at work. Then he stared back. Then we got to eye contact. About a month later he raised the game and smiled. Three months after that we talked, then we emailed and work went out the window. I literally spend 6 hours out of my 8 hour day emailing him.
I told him straight away that I was in a relationship. But he seemed to either like the challeng or like me enough. We met for a drink or two and I realised how compatible we were.
I was unbelievably attracted to him and he made it obvious he was to me. We shared the same passions, the same left wing (woolly jumper wearing) political views and wanted the same future. But when we clashed it was massive argument time (which was very horny).
Nothing happened when I was in a relationship though, but it could have. So I realised our friendship had to slow down ( because of my relationship, which was crap at the time).
But then I became single.
I told him about the break-up, we met and had our first kiss; nearly 2 years after we first started staring at each other . Yeahy!!!!!!!.
It was a very romantic night.
Then a week or so later, he went cold and emailed me at work to say he had met someone else. (dumped twice in a month, yes my confidence was at an all time high) (Oh OK then I admit it, I was then dumped the following week by another random, but that doesn’t bother me). My grave will say “Resilient”.
Anyway back to the story, I got that lovely email at work and I didn’t bother to reply. I left my job, moved back home and deleted his number.
About 2 months later (July) he text me again. Since I had deleted his number out of my phone, and I didn’t recognise his number, I text back asking who it was (Oh OK then i did recognise his number but had deleted his number and pretended I didn’t know who it was {to be cool}).
He text back stating the nickname I had gave him.
I ignored him.
But he persisted and persisted and tricked me into a response by texting about things I love, like puppies.
After I caved in and responded to a text, he called me (for about 2 hours) and apologised saying the other girl was a massive mistake and his reason: she seemed like an easier option. I fresh out of a break-up with potential troubles. But he regretted it and wished he could turn back time. He missed me etc.
Now we are speaking terms and getting back to the flirty text messages.
He wants to meet up. I am not sure. From what I gleamed from the office gossip (after the whole dumping me at work by email thing) he is a bit of a male whore. But if truth be told, I really like him… . But my gut instinct makes me think the whole thing is a car crash waiting to happen… . My friends are waving huge banners in my face saying “NO!!!!!!!!”. In fact all my friends think he is a d**k.
What do i do?
Do I, in my fragile state, risk another heart break.? Do I continue down the disasterous dating 21yr old line? Do I let myself heal and forget about boys? Or do i jump in with Mr What if or is he Mr what a wanker?
There are times in your life when the Gods shine upon you and you know that just like Maria in the Sound of Music, somewhere in your youth or childhood, you must have done something good.
